So feel your husband out and let him know how bad his wandering eye makes you feel.
You might need professional help and an objective third party to make it clear how devastating this behavior is to you. If you often feel jealous regarding other people in your life, this is a possibility.
In your case, you saw the writing on the wall, yet you married this man anyway. If he cares about you enough, he can change this habit. His wanxering eye is not about that.
You absolutely can talk to them about itand you shouldn't have to worry about them not responding well. We are sexual beings, and even if we are madly and faithfully in love with our partners, we still look. Instead, it might be better to consider having a casual conversation about it. And surely, they do.
People are human. That's less than a second, which is far from the obvious ogling that most people associate with a "wandering eye". Figueroa does note that "obvious ogling" is much more of a red-flag than "fleeting glances".
So if you're able to talk about your feels and address concerns in a non-accusatory way, this is almost always a good route to go. But there are literally tons of attractive people your Dealinh is going to come across on a daily basis, and although a glance or two can be harmless, it's still totally normal to be concerned you're missing the s your partner has a wandering eye.
By Tayi Sanusi Aug. It's worth noting that looking at someone who's attractive and perhaps even engaging them in conversation is different than anything that would physically be defined as cheating.
Some husbands are merely super-gregarious and complimentary to everyone, and there really is no sexual innuendo. I did marry him, though. My husband often looks at other women and seems attracted to them. They wanderijg attend events where there will be singles without you.
He met one married lady and said he imagined dating her if both of them were not married. Alternatively, some wives might be overly jealous and possessive. I know he loves someonf, but this is hard to take. But clearly, it is a problem. National Library Of Medicine, it only takes about milliseconds of gazing for the average person to decide if someone is a potential sexual partner.
It sounds like your husband is staring and flirting obviously, and even throwing it in your someonw. Wives do also and their husbands can feel just as hurt.
Although, the definition of "cheating" can and often does vary from relationship to relationship. The thing is, being in a relationship doesn't make you oblivious to other attractive people, so, is this actually something you need to be worried about? Men and women all look at things that interest us. wit
It's unrealistic to expect your partner to never check out a hottie for the someine of your relationship, but asking them not to do it in your presence should be totally fair game. What they view as flirting might actually be a friendly manner.
Gail Saltz. I have seen women do this, to their own detriment and to no avail. What do you think about this?
More like this. That said, since there's no way to know for sure that they're going to an event just to look at hotties, pouncing on them for going places solo because there "could be hot people there" might not be the most productive way to address your concerns.
I'm not gonna lie, I'd be annoyed AF if my SO was going out of his way to set aside time to ogle hot people instead of just ogling me. They engage in some questionable social media activity.
It might not be easy, but if you make him aware when he is doing it, he can keep tabs on it. So to an extent, you are a cautionary tale for women who are not yet married.
It might sound surprising, but according to a study published in the U. You catch them looking at other attractive people.
By the way, it is not just husbands who sometimes ogle strangers. It is now available in a paperback version. Even if it's awkward, you shouldn't have to pretend you're OK with something when you aren't. Well, it depends.
Here are a few things to consider: Is he doing this for attention? Well, Figeroa suggests looking at it in from a more pragmatic angle. He might think of it as fun and harmless, in which case communicating to him how you really feel may promote change. Giphy "I think the earliest and most obvious that your soemone has wandering eyes is when you catch them checking other people out," Figueroa tells Elite Daily. Giphy According to Figueroa, having a "wandering eye" doesn't have to only be taken literally.
For more information, you can visit her Web site, www. A good partner will be receptive to anything you have to say.